14th March is White Day. Although White Day is not a popular holiday in Malaysia, it is observed as the “answer day” to Valentine’s Day in many other countries. On this day, those who received gifts or love confessions on Valentine’s Day are expected to return gifts and respond to the confessions on the White Day.
We have to accept the fact that not everyone will get a positive response after confessing his/her love to the crush. What should we do when we get rejected?
Acknowledge Your Emotions
Rather than suppress, ignore, or deny the pain, the most effective way to deal with it is to acknowledge your emotions. Admit when you’re embarrassed, sad, disappointed, or discouraged.
Don’t try to convince yourself it was “no big deal” as this will only prolong your pain. Let’s face your emotions head-on and talk to your trusted friends for help.
Treat Yourself with Compassion
It’s not your fault — or someone else’s fault — for being rejected. Therefore, do not start your negative self-talk. Instead, speak to yourself like a trusted friend. Respond to your harsh inner critic with a kinder, more affirming message.
Don’t Let Rejection Defines You
One person turns you down for a date doesn’t mean that you’re unlovable. You may not be his/her cup of tea but that is just an one person’s opinion.
Don’t let your self-worth depend upon other people’s opinions of you. Just because someone else thinks something about you, doesn’t mean it’s true.
Learn from the Rejection
One of the reasons for human beings to survive for so many centuries is we’re constantly improving ourselves. Let’s turn the pain into an opportunity for self-growth.
Whether you learn about areas in your life that need improvement, or you simply recognize that being turned down isn’t awful as you imagined, rejection can be a good teacher. Use rejection as an opportunity to move forward with more wisdom.
The Best is Yet to Come
If you’re beaten down by one rejection, how are you going to welcome a better person in future? Let’s gather yourself and move on in life. When you’re ready, your Mr/Miss Right will walk into your life.